Supergirl star Melissa Benoist revealed on Wednesday, Nov. 27 that she is a survivor of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) in an emotional 14-minute Instagram video. Benoist is best known for her role as Kara Danvers/Supergirl on The CW’s Supergirl and Marley Rose on Glee.
The 31-year-old actress began the video with a direct, “I am a survivor of domestic violence, or IPV, intimate partner violence.”
She then described a relationship with a man, who remained unidentified but Benoist said that he was younger than her and they were together for a time. At the time, she had broken off a relationship and wasn’t thinking of getting into another. Once she met the individual and they began dating, she said their relationship felt like a “runaway freight train.”
Benoist then detailed the emotional, psychological, and physical abuse that her partner inflicted on her. He would look at her devices, get angry when she was spoke to other men, and didn’t want her to do romantic scenes with other men at work.
“He didn’t want me ever kissing or even having flirtatious scenes with men, which was very hard for me to avoid, so I began turning down auditions, job offers, test deals and friendships, because I didn’t want to hurt him.”
Benoist also detailed the physical acts of violence that her partner committed against her. This culminated in an incident that almost ruptured her eyeball and broke her nose. She said that since this injury her vision has “changed forever”. She detailed how she lied to the nurses and police, but said it was a turning point for her.
She detailed about how she began to let people know about her situation, starting with telling a friend about her partner’s controlling behavior. After this, she broke off the relationship with her partner and left.
Benoist concluded the emotional story by saying, “None of this is salacious news, it was my reality. What I went through caused a tectonic shift in my outlook on life.”
She then shared about why she had decided to come forward. As a survivor of domestic violence, Benoist wants the statistics to change. Currently, one in four women and one in four men have experience some form of violence from their partners. One in four women and one in 25 men have experienced an injury as a result of that violence.
After posting the video on IGTV, Benoist then posted to her Instagram the information for Futures Without Violence. The non-profit is dedicated to ending domestic and sexual violence. She also posted a number for a domestic violence helpline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
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The long and winding road of healing and reconciliation has brought me to this moment where I feel strong enough to talk about my experience openly, honestly and without shame. By sharing my story, hopefully I can empower others to seek help and extricate themselves from abusive relationships. Everyone deserves to be loved void of violence, fear and physical harm. @futureswithoutviolence
Benoist’s Supergirl and Arrowverse co-stars took to Instagram and Twitter to share messages of love and support to Benoist.
Jeremy Jordan, who played Winn Schott on Supergirl, wrote, “I love you, friend. I can’t wait to teach my daughter to be brave like auntie Melissa. ❤️”
Candice Patton, who plays Iris West-Allen on The Flash, replied to Benoist’s Tweet on the subject with a string of hearts.
Fans in the comment sections are thanking Benoist for her bravery in sharing her experience and sending her words of love and encouragement. Currently, I Stand With Melissa is trending on Twitter.
We here at 4 Your Excitement would like to thank Benoist for her bravery in coming forward and sharing her story and commend her for getting out of an abusive relationship. We wish her all the success, happiness, love, and hope in the future. She is truly a real life superhero.